My dilemma.

[CrvenBan]

There are millions of people who don't experience love, or are unable to find someone they care about/cares about them. Last night I saw UK documentary about 4 guys who, instead of being with "organic" women, are together with natural sized, silicone barbie looking DOLLS. Even having sex with them. What the fuck !?

Your problem is that love isn't enough, you just want a quantity of pussy. A valid point, but the question is: when will you meet another woman that fits you like this one (going after what you said that you love her). There is no soulmate, no destiny setting you up, that's just romantic hollywood bullshit. Everyone can be good for you, to some degree, but finding that one _is_ a problem since there are sooo many people. Odds are stacking up against you, with every new day brotha!

What am I trying to say here, is: kick back, and enjoy the ride. Don't do it out of fear that you will never find another one like her, but out of satisfaction to have experienced it


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[Ignominy]

what do you like about her

and serious things, don't give her credit for something she isn't

I doubt you'd be in this dilemma if you really wanted to stay with her anyway. That's what you want to hear right?

[Bioture]

dr. bio needs to know the severity of your situation. how many of the following have you done:

1) say "i'm IN love with you" and have her say it back.
2) talk about marriage.
3) have sex regularly and it doesn't get old
4) talk about being soulmates
5) pray about the situation only to have god say "yeah thats the one"
6) think about her all the time even when you're not together or hanging out with other girls who are active potentials.

get back to me.

[Noah]

The issue here isn't her or her behaviour, I love her and I don't want her to change.

I'm just tired of fighting off my urges here, and having her as my only one freaks me out, I weren't a player in high school, I did other stuff. After I moved out I hit with alot of chicks in a short time, and I loved it, but then I just happened to get together with one of them (my current). And I really didn't want to settle down back then, but she just prooved to be way too good to give up.

But to an extent, what I feel for her isn't the issue here, it could have been a true goddess, but I'd still want to wait a few years before I settle down.

If I could have my way we'd take a break and just fuck about, but I can't stand the thought of her being with anyone else (wow, that's hypocrit).

I know I can't pick both but it's either too early for a) settle down, and b) wrong to break up with anyone I love this much.

But it doesn't change the fact that it's too early.

(I know I'm repeating myself here, just kinda stoned and tried to make some sense in this.)

Btw, I should rename this thread to Noah's Emo Blog.

[Epinephrine]

everything you just said is blah blah blah blah

scale of 1 to 10... hows her vagina?

Having seen more vagina than almost everyone here, I'd have to say that there are some really good looking (and tight) ones out there which can make all the difference. Too bad there's no easy way to tell without actually checking it out first because vagina goodness has only loose associations with any other factor.

[Epinephrine]

If you really like her and love spending time with her, there's no reason to break up. If there is something about her that really bugs you, but otherwise you like her then talk to her. If are are lots of things about her that bug you, then you should break up before it's too late.

[Nickname]

been here, i chose to leave after 3 years, than panic'd and went back to her, we got back together, it was ugly, we broke up again, it was ugly....just ugly.

i can't give you advice other than to say, do what feels right to you, and if you leave, STAY LEFT, do NOT go back. I'm the king ofdating girls twice, and I don't know why i do it.

[Noah]

If I ever lay my hands on another woman in a more than friendly it's permanently over. Break or no break.

[kthx]

If you had gone to college, you would have better english Aconewbie.

But anyways, this is ridiculous, tell her you want to try some new shit in the bedroom, if she isn't down, she is probaly a bitch anyways, and you will get tired of the lack of interesting sex life and break up anyways. Besides getting divorced is the new cool thing to do, so don't sweat it.

[Scurvy]

im in the same boat with you man.. its been about 3 years, end of high school and beggining off college, and its not typical to be in a long term relationship at that point in your life. we've been off and on, had a few 'breaks,' but always end up back together, because fankly, both our lives are better that way.

usually a relationship that is going to last isn't going to be perfect the first try. you have to work through any issues, and USUALLY it takes a little bit of time apart to realize what you're missing.

that being said, dont tell her you want to 'take a break' just so you can fool around on the side. if you're looking for something more exciting sexually, just arrange a threesome $$.

[Soul Survivor]

Take it from me man if you love this girl stay with her. I slept around alot in HS and College. Anyone can fuck. When you find the girl you can make love to keep her. Pussy is pussy man. The women that I let go in my life are now getting married. I was blessed I dated alot of good women. I lost out on many good ones because I thought with my dick. Don't let your dick do your thinking man. Think from you heart. I gave myself to more women than, I should have. You do nothing but give a piece of yourself away.

Banging this chick and that chick dosen't get you anywhere.

[Galleleo]

Ask yourself what you would think of her sleeping around, even when you're broken up. If you would be totally jealous and disgusted and what not by her sleeping with other guys, even though you broke it off to do this, chances are you shouldn't do it.

Moreover, I think Jerome is right, you're probably idealizing these other women, and once they turn out to not be that great at all, and not even close to who you have currently, you might have blown your chance with this one.

I would advice however to try and have a convo with her about this, a totally open convo. So not one where you enter with the mindset: I have to convince her we need to do this for a year and then get back together. Just try to see her point of view on this. Who knows, maybe she does have that same feeling somewhere.

[Liquid Blue]

(before this my average was maybe a month at longest)

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[Jeansi]

Jerome, stop being politically correct just because your girl reads the forums. It sucks major ass.

[Jerome Scuggs]

you're probably idealizing these other women. trust me, i've had this problem for years, just finally settling into a long-term relationship (before this my average was maybe a month at longest)

but yeah, you will probably be wondering if you could be happy with the others, or even fuck around with them - but it's not worth it. whatever has kept you in your current relationship is probably what you'll be looking for in these other women; not finding it will leave you unsatisfied, and you'll be fucked if you make this realization and your current misses won't take you back.

though i can pretty much say the reason i'm finally happy is because, well, quite frankly - i've played the entire goddamn field, and i've finally got my highschool crush, who turned out to be amazing. i got her to join Penetrate $$