I'm just gonna ignore the enforcer because he's a troll and quite frankly not worth talking to, but Mr. Peanuts on the other hand is quite intelligent so I will reply to you: I don't mean to offend you by disagreeing with your parents actions or anything, but I think that if you need to hit your kids because the message isn't getting through, then you're just taking the easy way out. Any adult can whack a kid, in most cases a kid can't defend themselves because they're usually smaller than their parent. A good parent is one that doesn't need to resort to violent acts. Shitty kids are usually the result of shitty parenting. If you bring your kids up properly from day 1, then you should have no reason to hit them, and even if they deserve to be punished, there are much more effective and humane ways of disciplining them while still respecting their rights as people, one of which right is the right to not be physically abused. This isn't the stone age, we don't need to go around beating the crap out of minors to make a point. In a sense you're condoning violence, as small as that violence may be, it's still uneccesary, and may teach a kid that it's ok to hit someone if you're not pleased with them.
There isnt a general rule when it comes to raising kids, what you are saying may work for some but it wont work for others. What your saying is that parents should reason with the kids but its just not that simple especially at a young age i do agree that after 13-15 years of age there shouldnt be any hitting but under if a kid did something wrong and knows they did something wrong hitting them that doesnt cause any damage is the most effective means i do agree that you can result to reasoning even at a young age for some kids but its not for all you are over simplfying the issue. And what the fuck do you mean im a troll? just because my values and attitudes differ from yours doesnt mean im a troll and want to agigtate people you are the one that is the troll by making irrelevant comments about my puncuation in hope of agigtating me!
I havent been smacked since I was about 9 years old because by then I was pretty aware of the consequences of my actions if I did something wrong.
I was brought up well from day 1, tought manners, respect elders and all that... I have seen kids, particularly in shops acticng like proper little brats and all their parents do is ignore them or tell them to stop it, and not once have the kids stopped. I think you're a bad parent if you let your kids publicly act like brats and you dont take sufficient action to stop them.
I reckon that smacking your kids should be the last resort, after you have used words and they havent learnt, what else is there to do?
First of all.. go home and put ur dad through a wall.
second of all find that cops house and throw a brick through his window
and third of all take some fucking action son dont let them bitch u around.
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ROFL WTF YOU QUACKS. I was telling a story about a disgruntled cop who gets a hard on from yelling at "little punks". This is one of the only times my dad has done this. I wasn't trying to get help. Just wanted to tell a story about a fucked up cop. I wouldn't of said anything about my dad, but everyone would of been confused on why the cop was after me. =P
P.S.- My dad didnt believe me I did my homework after I showed it to my mom three times. I said I was going to bed and he said no,etc,etc.. =)
"Parents who spanked kids early in life said they had more behavior problems or were sad or depressed when they hit schoolage. Parents who spanked frequently were more likely to have a lower education level, lower income and a higher rate of depression. Dr. Slade says, if parents choose to spank, they need to make sure it's a decision they can defend. "
look for articles and you'll find this same thing over and over again... the few "experts" that believe in spanking define it as a little slap to the bum to get the attention of toddlers... spanking as a punishment is bad for a kid.
Timmy came home with 3 D's and an F? Throw him down the stairs.
Why wouldn't you try to get the kid some help, like a tutor or a professional education assistant?
It sucks that the cop didn't do anything, and the only thing I can suggest is to file a complaint with the local police chief. I don't think taking your dad to court is an option, since you're a minor (I'm guessing) and probably don't have access to an attorney. At least know that your dad had no entitlement to what he did and furthermore the policeman was completely out of line when he allowed his personal views to get in the way of doing his job.
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Why wouldn't you try to get the kid some help, like a tutor or a professional education assistant?
It sucks that the cop didn't do anything, and the only thing I can suggest is to file a complaint with the local police chief. I don't think taking your dad to court is an option, since you're a minor (I'm guessing) and probably don't have access to an attorney. At least know that your dad had no entitlement to what he did and furthermore the policeman was completely out of line when he allowed his personal views to get in the way of doing his job.
If you really had a problem your school is the best resource because they no doubtly handle these type of cases every year so they know what to do in and out. Although im not sure if its worth in this case because we are not given all the facts.
Well bz, I'm an anomaly, and so are many others that I know. The kids who I know with behavioral problems are the ones who can get away with murder, their parents just let them off or dont take any action, SEND THEM TO MILITARY SCHOOL!
File a complaint? What the fuck? Why not encourage him to just forget about it and carry on? It's only one thing he did and besides even Auraz said that his dad doesnt do it often.
Well bz, I'm an anomaly, and so are many others that I know. The kids who I know with behavioral problems are the ones who can get away with murder, their parents just let them off or dont take any action, SEND THEM TO MILITARY SCHOOL!
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Lots of people smoke and don't die of lung cancer.. doesn't make it a smart thing to do.
Nobody's suggesting that zero discipline is the answer either. Hitting your kdis isn't the only way to make them listen.
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