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    Today, I received confirmation that one of my long time friends is a compulsive liar. I don't know what else to call it except she has been lying for the 3 years i've known her and continues to lie whenever a lie looks better than the truth. Allow me to explain.

    She graduated last year, trying to go to law school right now. When I knew her, she came off as being the model student, she went abroad and told me she got straight As and Bs, and she told me just a few days ago that her graduating GPA from penn state is a 3.7.

    I found out today from a copy of her transcript that her graduating GPA is a 2.8, and that the only reason she transfered to PSU from Damen was because her GPA was too low and she needed a fresh start. And now she's killing herself over studying for LSATs because most schools weigh LSATs more than GPA. Shes shooting for a 170 (score range from 120-180) but has never gotten better than a 165.

    Additionally - heres where it becomes complicated - one of my roommates dated her - he was a virgin before any of this, and told me that before they had sex that he was ok with it because they were both virgins. I think she may be lying about that too because 1) she invited a drunk guy who was a stranger to sleep in the same bed as her before they dated 2) she has had a lot more boyfriends than my roomate has had girlfriends. and 3) My roomate is a pretty righteous guy, very conservative, and yet they had only been dating 2 months before they started doing the mambo. She came of as being very conservative when she talked. But its only talk.

    I'm faced with a decision. Should I confront her and tell her that shes lying and that its wrong (and face scolding and lose her friendship because I was snooping around), have a talk with my roomate on what I just found out (which will probably make him depressed for awhile), or just let everything slide and let them continue doing whatever it is that theyre doing.

    They're not together anymore but the problem is my roomate doesnt stop obsessing and pursuing her and the late night phone calls are getting on my last nerves. This is even more true now because I know of her little "secret."

    I trust in your judgement.

    Btw i'm leaning towards confronting her and then telling my roomate if something else happens.
    Last edited by Bioture; 08-28-2005, 07:35 PM.
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  • #2
    Man I hate people who say "righteous."
    The pleasure's all mine.

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    • #3
      Here's a novel idea, keep your mouth shut, and use what you know to not let her lie to you and let that be the end of it.


      Because seriously, my take on it? What the fuck business is it of yours exactly? Their past time fucking is no business of yours. And if that memory is important to your friend, all you're going to do is fuck it up for him for the rest of his entire life.


      So turn around, and walk the other way, unless you really enjoy screwing with people's heads.
      "Sexy" Steve Mijalis-Gilster, IVX

      Reinstate Me.

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      • #4
        I babysat some kids like that. They were all compulsive liars, and it completely sucked. I just yelled at them/locked them out of the house in the rain until they learned not to lie to me. I guess that wouldn't work for you though, so good luck with that. -_-
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        • #5
          Originally posted by Sarien
          Here's a novel idea, keep your mouth shut, and use what you know to not let her lie to you and let that be the end of it. Because seriously, my take on it? What the fuck business is it of yours exactly? Their past time fucking is no business of yours.
          You make it sound like it's your business, Sarien. You could try to be a little more understanding.

          Bioture, from what I can make of the situation, you want to stay friends with the girl, but you also don't want her to lie to your bud. Perhaps you should confront the girl first and just bring up the idea of her lying about being a virgin? If you do mention that she left for another university, she will probably explode.

          What do you feel like doing and how would it make you feel like everything would turn out okay?
          boo...:eek:

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Blanke
            You make it sound like it's your business, Sarien. You could try to be a little more understanding.

            He asked for advice. I gave it.

            Tell you what, Bioture. Go ahead and tell him. Confront the whole deal. Then come back and post when you're not friends with any of em any longer.

            I'm making that my prediction of events to come.
            "Sexy" Steve Mijalis-Gilster, IVX

            Reinstate Me.

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            • #7
              get snooping.. get more evidence and post your progress here. cant confront her till you know 100% (and you can never know 100%)
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              • #8
                At least try to get sex from her before you confront her.
                Ferengi Rule of Acquisition #98: Every man has his price.

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                • #9
                  Confronting her won't get you anywhere, if she's a compulsive liar then trying to confront her will only make the situation worse. She'll most likely lie and keep lying until she's out of the hot seat.

                  Telling your friend- I don't really know if that's too mch of a good idea either. If he's obsessed over her, finding out she's slept with other guys could either get him depressed for a little while, realize she's not worth his time and then move on- or make him even more depressed than he is. I'm going to have to side with Sarien on this one.
                  My father in law was telling me over Thanksgiving about this amazing bartender at some bar he frequented who could shake a martini and fill it to the rim with no leftovers and he thought it was the coolest thing he'd ever seen. I then proceeded to his home bar and made four martinis in one shaker with unfamiliar glassware and a non standard shaker and did the same thing. From that moment forward I knew he had no compunction about my cock ever being in his daughter's mouth.

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                  • #10
                    attention bioture: save your buddy's life.
                    sage

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                    • #11
                      Or you can fuck them all and become emo.
                      Originally posted by Jeenyuss
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                      • #12
                        Better to hurt your freind now rather than him finding out later, taking more damage and hating you for not telling him earlier.

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                        • #13
                          Kill Her
                          I don't know how to put this but I'm kind of a big deal...

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                          • #14
                            Just ignore them both, it's none of your goddamn business anyway.
                            Originally posted by Disliked
                            However, I have a bigger problem, being an atheist for 9 years, most of it during my teenage years I've become a little addicted to masterbation. I've tried to stop and even asked God to help but I'm unable to resist the temptation and it's driving me insane with grief.


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                            • #15
                              Usually, compulsive liars trip themselves up eventually, make a mental log of stuff she says, and one day when she contradicts or is inconsistent about something she said to you a while ago, make sure she knows that you're onto her by perhaps saying something like "I thought you told me such and such a thing...", you can use this to you and your mate's advantage. From this, she should learn to stop lying because she's only going to get found out by you one way or another.

                              Just be subtle about it, confronting it insensitively could only make things worse, and both of them may end up hating you for it.

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