My dilemma.

[Noah]

The issue here isn't her or her behaviour, I love her and I don't want her to change.

I'm just tired of fighting off my urges here, and having her as my only one freaks me out, I weren't a player in high school, I did other stuff. After I moved out I hit with alot of chicks in a short time, and I loved it, but then I just happened to get together with one of them (my current). And I really didn't want to settle down back then, but she just prooved to be way too good to give up.

But to an extent, what I feel for her isn't the issue here, it could have been a true goddess, but I'd still want to wait a few years before I settle down.

If I could have my way we'd take a break and just fuck about, but I can't stand the thought of her being with anyone else (wow, that's hypocrit).

I know I can't pick both but it's either too early for a) settle down, and b) wrong to break up with anyone I love this much.

But it doesn't change the fact that it's too early.

(I know I'm repeating myself here, just kinda stoned and tried to make some sense in this.)

Btw, I should rename this thread to Noah's Emo Blog.

[Bioture]

dr. bio needs to know the severity of your situation. how many of the following have you done:

1) say "i'm IN love with you" and have her say it back.
2) talk about marriage.
3) have sex regularly and it doesn't get old
4) talk about being soulmates
5) pray about the situation only to have god say "yeah thats the one"
6) think about her all the time even when you're not together or hanging out with other girls who are active potentials.

get back to me.

[Ignominy]

what do you like about her

and serious things, don't give her credit for something she isn't

I doubt you'd be in this dilemma if you really wanted to stay with her anyway. That's what you want to hear right?

[CrvenBan]

There are millions of people who don't experience love, or are unable to find someone they care about/cares about them. Last night I saw UK documentary about 4 guys who, instead of being with "organic" women, are together with natural sized, silicone barbie looking DOLLS. Even having sex with them. What the fuck !?

Your problem is that love isn't enough, you just want a quantity of pussy. A valid point, but the question is: when will you meet another woman that fits you like this one (going after what you said that you love her). There is no soulmate, no destiny setting you up, that's just romantic hollywood bullshit. Everyone can be good for you, to some degree, but finding that one _is_ a problem since there are sooo many people. Odds are stacking up against you, with every new day brotha!

What am I trying to say here, is: kick back, and enjoy the ride. Don't do it out of fear that you will never find another one like her, but out of satisfaction to have experienced it


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[Soul Survivor]

If you had gone to college, you would have better english Aconewbie.

But anyways, this is ridiculous, tell her you want to try some new shit in the bedroom, if she isn't down, she is probaly a bitch anyways, and you will get tired of the lack of interesting sex life and break up anyways. Besides getting divorced is the new cool thing to do, so don't sweat it.

If I was dissolved Savanger... This is how I did it?

Might want fix your signature

Noah I would stay with this girl. Try and spice thing up a bit my doing things you don't usually do. Be more creative in a your current relationship. Anyone can have sex, but when you have a women you can make love to, it's a different story. Relationships are not all about getting your dick wet. Going from girl to girl will not solve the problem. Why have you stayed with her this long?

There must be something about her that you enjoy. Find a way to spark the relationship back up. Try taking her out for makeover like a new hair style,get her nails done, or spa treatment(make her feel sexy). If you have invested as much time in the releationship as you have,why throw it away? Don't take any advise from kthx the only girl he has probally slept with is Izor's sister or cousin (If that).

[Lizard Fuel]

You want to be careful. If you stay and this feeling grows, eventually you may start to resent her/the relationship because you want to be free but instead you are trapped. After a while that could make things ugly.

If this is a strong feeling I say break it off, tell her youre not ready to settle down, and you want to date some more while youre still young. Then hope that once youre tired of that she takes you back (or you find someone better and then you win). Or, if you dont find someone better, crawl back on your knees proclaiming that you made a terrible mistake and no one is a better match for you then her.

I would say do whatever she says. Mirr is the only female to have posted on this thread thus far that I know of, and who would know better about this sorta stuff than a chick? Speaking from experience, If you've exchanged "I love you's" then you better stick around. If you don't, you're going to have to live with the fact that you ripped her heart out.

[Galleleo]

If I could have my way we'd take a break and just fuck about, but I can't stand the thought of her being with anyone else (wow, that's hypocrit).

This would pretty much tell me that if there is no way you are getting back with her if you would break up, that you shouldn't break up.

[Ignominy]

If I was dissolved Savanger... This is how I did it?

Might want fix your signature

you are the worst joke-getter in the history of life



Seriously Might, these people can't analyze your relationship without knowing either of you. If you're seriously having trouble with this situation, ask some of your RL friends whose discretion and judgement you trust.

Like I said before, I don't think you would've posted this if you hadn't already made a decision in your head. Good luck to you though.

[Shan]

Quit WoW, it's simple!

[EnFlAmE]

Quit WoW, it's simple!

Once you're addicted you shouldn't quit. I used to be in the same guild as noah and there was this guy who's gf forced him to play WoW cause else he would just get drunk 24/7

[Blood]

If you had gone to college, you would have better english Aconewbie.

But anyways, this is ridiculous, tell her you want to try some new shit in the bedroom, if she isn't down, she is probaly a bitch anyways, and you will get tired of the lack of interesting sex life and break up anyways. Besides getting divorced is the new cool thing to do, so don't sweat it.

Not funny. Corny, ridiculous. Try harder.

[Fit of Rage]

Crv pretty much hit the nail on the head. I feel that way sometimes but those urges are probably natural. No reason to mess it up if, for the most part, you're happy. Things will happen the way they will and if some time in the future you both feel you've reached the end of your relationship then that should be a mutual decision, and not just because you wanted some new tail.

[Ephemeral]

Most of you should first try REALLY being in love before giving Noah some advice.

Having physical sex has nothing to do with love (even though Crven does love himself and beats off at the same time).

[Liquid Blue]

uh

I would say do whatever she says. Mirr is the only female to have posted on this thread thus far that I know of, and who would know better about this sorta stuff than a chick?

Don't do this

[MirrorriM]

Don't do this

I agree. You shouldnt listen to someone just cause theyre a girl, you should listen to what they have to say :P

Anyways, I'm not a guy and I dont have a desire to bang as many men as I can while I'm young..we are all biased in a way by our past and what has happened to us. The guys on here could be more accurate because they seem to have had similar dilemmas.

From a girl's perspective, I would hate sensing the feeling that my boyfriend wishes he could be with other women and he never tells me. Everyone likes to think they are a good actor, but one too many wistful gazes at another lady doesnt go unnoticed :P

Anyways my point is be careful. Dont let negative feelings build up about the relationship. Seriously consider how much you are gonna miss not having anymore sex with other women. It's one thing to have a lot of sex, but another to lose someone who is perfect in every way and loves you back for the same reason. That lasts a lifetime