living with your significant other

[Facetious]

apparently their is a much higher success rate for marriages when the people don't live together before taking the plunge over people who live with eachother for a while before marrying. i donno.

I find that really hard to believe. Maybe it's because people that don't live together before marriage are less likely to get a divorce even if the relationship has gone to shit, but I don't think that waiting until marriage to live together is a good idea at all.

[Galleleo]

bio i'm just taking something like this in christian ethics class right now.

apparently their is a much higher success rate for marriages when the people don't live together before taking the plunge over people who live with eachother for a while before marrying. i donno.

I definitely want to have lived with someone before getting married, it's always way different then just dating and sleeping over once a week. All kinds of stuff come out the woodworks then.

[Epinephrine]

bio i'm just taking something like this in christian ethics class right now.

apparently their is a much higher success rate for marriages when the people don't live together before taking the plunge over people who live with eachother for a while before marrying. i donno.

Christian Ethics? They were probably just trying not to get people to live together before marriage because that usually leads to... sex before marriage.

[Foreign]

I find that really hard to believe. Maybe it's because people that don't live together before marriage are less likely to get a divorce even if the relationship has gone to shit, but I don't think that waiting until marriage to live together is a good idea at all.

What you think and what reality shows are two different things, interestingly. Want to be shocked even more? Check out the success rate on arranged marriages.

[Facetious]

What you think and what reality shows are two different things, interestingly. Want to be shocked even more? Check out the success rate on arranged marriages.

Mentioning arranged marriages reinforces my point. Of course they don't end in divorce, not only is it entirely against the religion, not just half-assed against the religion, but in a lot of those situations, the wife is pretty subservient to the husband. My thought isn't that the stat is false, but that it's misleading. The people who are likely to wait until marriage to live together fall into two categories: the extremely stupid, and the devoutly religious, but mostly the latter category. Those people are less likely to get a divorce no matter how awful the marriage is.

[MirrorriM]

From a stats class I learned that people who live together before marriage consider it practically marriage, and when they do get get married its just a formal step based on our culture...so they have more divorces because they dont take marriage as seriously as people who havent lived together do. Hope my long run on sentence made some sense.

[IceStorm]

Wax and I have been living together for a while now, the only downfall is the sexual intercourse decreases but other than that...

[Jeenyuss]

i agree the stat is a bit misleading, but it is true.

i mean, i'm sure there are way more marriages out there that had the two people living together before becoming married than two people that never lived together becoming married. and i'm also betting a lot of the people that don't live together before getting married are pretty devoted christians/whatever.

personally, i'd rather live with someone before getting married. and no, epi, that's not what it's all about. my teacher's pretty liberal but he's a really devout catholic. he actually never lived together before getting married and it seems like he's got a pretty good marriage, he put the spin on it that it's all part of the adventure of marriage.

algebraic, bitches.

[Liquid Blue]

From what I've seen, Arlington is one of the worst areas to live. The housing is expensive, and the perks (a zillion overcrowded bars filled with sorority/frat types) aren't worth it.

hey goober I was talking about crime/ how clean it is

I've gone to school there for almost 4 years now, thank god I don't live over there

you see the sorority/frat types while I deal with the military commuters.

[Doc Flabby]

Just be sure to understand that she will probably see living together in the same as you would see getting married.

[Bioture]

the commitment part scares me only a little bit - i really love this person so that makes it easier. the biggest turn off is the fact that my two roommates are engaged and the guy has been telling me that once you live together, you fight a lot more, you run out of stuff to talk about, and you're constantly "stepping on eggshells" about what you say to each other.

nothing against my roommies. they're super cool and they're devoted christians as well. which goes against the whole marriage before cohabitance thing.

[Noah]

Just be sure to understand that she will probably see living together in the same as you would see getting married.

These kind of advices is the ones YOU SHOULD NOT TAKE.

Unless Flabby has moved in with your girlfriend before, he's speaking out of his ass by sterotyping your girlfriend. Which also was the point of my earlier post.

The relationship you have is unique, and nobody knows more about it than you.

You may or may not fight more, you may or may not run out of stuff to talk about, and you or may not be open about everything.

I've never said anything like this on the forums before, but here goes:
Listen to be about this one!

[Foreign]

Mentioning arranged marriages reinforces my point. Of course they don't end in divorce, not only is it entirely against the religion, not just half-assed against the religion, but in a lot of those situations, the wife is pretty subservient to the husband. My thought isn't that the stat is false, but that it's misleading. The people who are likely to wait until marriage to live together fall into two categories: the extremely stupid, and the devoutly religious, but mostly the latter category. Those people are less likely to get a divorce no matter how awful the marriage is.

I guess the point I should have made is that there is no way to tell whether people are happily married or not from a statistic, so the number really doesn't say anything either way about how people get along who didn't live together premaritally.

....which is probably what you were saying anyway.

[Astrogirl]

Currently we're both consultants, able to relocate to anywhere (preferably east coast). we get along great, but we're past the phase where we can't get enough of each other.

Currently we're both consultants, :
This is really a vague discription. Could be a McDonalds "consultant" , or etc.

able to relocate anywhere (preferably east coast) :
They live in a van down by the river in texas so relocation really is no problem and would like to see what modern expendetures and the means to achieves them are like.

[Zeebu]

make me a sandwich, bitch