How do you know when to break off a relationship?

[Noah]

I've been with my girlfriend for 2 year soon, we've had a good time together and I love her, and I still think she's one of the hottest chicks around.

However, lately I've been starting to doubt if I should continue. I'm not sure I want to put more time into a relationship that is not supposted to lead anywhere. We've already been living together, but she had to move out again due to school, and we've crossed every base pretty much except being engaged and marriage.

Something just feels.. off now. We've had it like this before, but never this extreme. We're around eachother because our relationship says that we have to. It's always like this on vacation, and I blame her for having to go the ENTIRE summer. I just came after her, and now it's all weird because we haven't seen eachother for 6-7 weeks. That's right, soon 2 years and we haven't seen eachother for 6-7 weeks. I've had a shitty summer because of this.

I know that this is going to be an issue in every fucking vacation we have, I almost don't even have a girlfriend in the vacations. I'm getting pretty sick of it.

This does not have a solution other than her not going home for entire vacations when I have to work. And that is not going to happen.

When do I know it is time to end it?

[gran guerrero]

in the immortal words of Dane Cook to keep a relationship healthy...

<Loud Whisper>CHEAT</Loud Whisper>

[Vergilius]

only decent advice i can give you w/o knowing u or ur gf:
shouldnt you be talking bout this with your gf instead of desperatly-trying-to-get-laid-2D-spaceship-game-players?
(generalizing )

[Noah]

I pretty much told her what I wrote in this thread, and she agrees that it's pretty bad right now, and she doesn't know why it is like this.

She also said that she thinks it is just temporarily and that it will be good when we go back home after vacation. I'm not going to disagree about that.

I'm not the one with the problem here, I know this is standard to say, but really, she admitted to this.

I just don't know if I can take much more of this, I've had a lousy summer because of this, and now it looks like it's going to last even longer. I'm not sure if I want my relationship to fuck me up for such a long time.

And no Gran, I'm not going to cheat on her.

Edit: Just saw the post above this one, I've talked with her about it.

[stark]

The way I see it, if you're feeling apprehensive and doubtful, then it isn't the relationship, so it ultimately is going to lead to exactly where I think the advice you're subconsciously seeking via the internet-- the ending of the relationship between you and Jennifer. Now, I know you and Sarah have been together for a while, and some times you might worry that the bond of friendship created throughout the relationship will be ruined and you guys will lose touch, being what happens with many relationships, whether they end on good terms or not. I think if a relationship lasts that long, but you know it's not really going towards marriage, then it's pointless because both you and Michelle are not leading to what serious relationships should and both losing chances to meet other people who might suit each of you better.

That's my opinion anyway, best of luck to you and Nicole.

[Blood]

your age directly correlates to how desperately you should strive to stay in a relationship like that. how do you feel about spending the rest of your life with her? in any case, i'd probably give it a bit more time, see how autumn goes

[Zerzera]

You don't have this problem with arranged marriages. You get this one chick and you have to make it work. God bless arranged marriages.

[Galleleo]

So the problem is that she goes home during the summer while you stay behind to work?

How old is she? Cause if she is like 25+ and this looks to be going on for a while, it seems unhealthy for me that she needs to go home for the whole summer. You have to let go of your family sometime and start visiting them less.

[megaman89]

having the same problem here noah. Yeah it sucks ass, especially during the summer because I'm guessing you did everything with her and pretty much blew off your other friends for the most part? Ive been with mine only about a year and we just recently took a break. We talk everyday and we are starting to hang out again, I just don't know if I should waste my time with her doing all this and we might not get back together.

[SEAL]

So the problem is that she goes home during the summer while you stay behind to work?

How old is she? Cause if she is like 25+ and this looks to be going on for a while, it seems unhealthy for me that she needs to go home for the whole summer. You have to let go of your family sometime and start visiting them less.

and... you're living with your parents.

[PaulOakenfold]

Just do it.

[Bioture]

if you're not ready for the next step, and you're tired of the step you're currently on, then jumping off the ladder might not seem like a bad idea... as long as you're prepared to have your legs broken when you hit the ground.

[Galleleo]

and... you're living with your parents.

I asked if she was 25+ and referring to that he said that it looked to be going for a while.. I am not even near 25. I would say somewhere between 25-30 you should be really getting a place on your own and a life off your own, not go back for a whole vacation/weekends. But just more like go to visit.

[Mantra-Slider]

we broke up and became friends. maybe there will be a time for us again.

[Nickname]

your age directly correlates to how desperately you should strive to stay in a relationship like that. how do you feel about spending the rest of your life with her? in any case, i'd probably give it a bit more time, see how autumn goes

solid advice.

Give it some more time, and see how it goes. The fact that your questioning it is a decent enough sign to end it, but ending something long term requires more than a 'decent enough' sign. Stick it out for a bit, see if things change when you see her more often, if no, time to go.