Let's talk about your (shitty) sex lives

[wadi]

Yes, she has been saving herself for the "right guy" but then again I've been able to get to 3rd base and I just can't bring myself to do anything beyond that. She trusts me enough to do it, but I don't want to deflower her because then i'll feel really guilty because she's a really nice girl who's going to grad school soon. I've been doing a good job thinking with the right head, but I don't know how long I can keep this up.

Then dump her or fuck her, but get on with it. This sounds callous, but you're better off moving forward down either path than sitting in limbo.

[Sarien]

I don't want to deflower her because then i'll feel really guilty because she's a really nice girl who's going to grad school soon.

I'm not sure if the rules have changed but, as I recall, if you're getting to third base, then there isn't exactly a large amount left to deflower.

I agree with Wadi. Shit or get off the pot.
Just don't do it under false pretenses. That'd make you an ass.

[Cops]

Yes, she has been saving herself for the "right guy" but then again I've been able to get to 3rd base and I just can't bring myself to do anything beyond that. She trusts me enough to do it, but I don't want to deflower her because then i'll feel really guilty because she's a really nice girl who's going to grad school soon. I've been doing a good job thinking with the right head, but I don't know how long I can keep this up.

She sounds really sweet, that said you should dump her if you don't love her or see it going anywhere serious. Some guys need to get laid, it's not a big deal and you're really young so there's no point settling down if you're not ready to settle down.

Thank god my girlfriend told me straight out she wanted to get laid before she finished high school, I don't have to worry about the "right one" thing it's nice when you don't have that load to worry about.

[bloodzombie]

Yes, she has been saving herself for the "right guy" but then again I've been able to get to 3rd base and I just can't bring myself to do anything beyond that. She trusts me enough to do it, but I don't want to deflower her because then i'll feel really guilty because she's a really nice girl who's going to grad school soon. I've been doing a good job thinking with the right head, but I don't know how long I can keep this up.

What are you, 13? If you were the 'right guy', you woudln't be posting this. Just tell her that you think she's hot as hell and you want to have sex with her, but you don't want to do anything that she's not ready to do. If you feel that doing it puts too much responsibility on you that you're not ready to handle, then maybe you should move on.

If you're getting to third base, it's a pretty simple slide into home. Just make sure you wear your rain hat.

[Cops]

What are you, 13? If you were the 'right guy', you woudln't be posting this. Just tell her that you think she's hot as hell and you want to have sex with her, but you don't want to do anything that she's not ready to do. If you feel that doing it puts too much responsibility on you that you're not ready to handle, then maybe you should move on.

If you're getting to third base, it's a pretty simple slide into home. Just make sure you wear your rain hat.

I don't think being the right guy has anything to do with Bioture looking for help, he cares enough about the girl to consider her emotional state after they had sex which half of the males on this planet wouldn't even do.

[Verthanthi]

my shitty sex life is nonexistant, much to my relief.
my regular one is not doing so hot either, which is less awesome.

[bloodzombie]

I don't think being the right guy has anything to do with Bioture looking for help, he cares enough about the girl to consider her emotional state after they had sex which half of the males on this planet wouldn't even do.

Right, which is why I'm saying he should be telling her how he feels, not us. As long as he stays honest and up front with her, he can do no wrong.

[Epinephrine]

I have a good friend like the girl you're dating Bio. She makes it pretty clear to guys she's dating that she won't go the last step and if the guys aren't cool with that she won't go out with them. If you aren't cool with it, don't go out with her unless you want to marry her. It's as simple as that.

[Facetious]

it sounds to me like shes is willing to have sex with him though, i think bz is right, just let her know whats going on. i know a lot of girls start out with some sort of moral objection to sex, but eventually get sick of the stigma and just want to get it over with. not to say this girl "just wants to get it over with" but perhaps shes done being a virgin?

besides, who's to say that just because you have sex with her, that you really have any sort of obligation to date her longer than you want to? right now you really like her, so if she wants to have sex with you, i say go for it, if the relationship ends, it ends, but if you care about her enough to have a moral dilemma about whether or not to sleep with her (i mean, jesus christ, you must really like her), it seems the relationship has the potential to be solid enough that she probably wont regret losing her virginity to you, even if the relationship doesnt end in marriage.

[bloodzombie]

even if the relationship doesnt end in marriage.

This made me laugh.

[Edify]

I've got a good friend named Olive in Oxford who I can't visit because she's now living with my ex-flatmate DimGray, and if I go up to stay with her I'll be pissing my ex-flatmate DimGray off as I should really be staying with my ex-flatmate DimGray as she's one of my best friends. Olive can't stay with me because my ex-flatmate DimGray will be even more pissed, as Olive will be staying with me and my flatmates and my ex-flatmate DimGray will be missing out. I went up there to stay with Olive a little while ago which pissed my ex-flatmate DimGray off no end, and they used to talk about me every day but now I'm a sore subject which means I'm losing my appeal to Olive. I hope to God neither of them read the TW Forums

for the sake of easier reading, i'm going to rename ur ex-flatmate and good friend as the color they are.

[Epinephrine]

it sounds to me like shes is willing to have sex with him though, i think bz is right, just let her know whats going on. i know a lot of girls start out with some sort of moral objection to sex, but eventually get sick of the stigma and just want to get it over with. not to say this girl "just wants to get it over with" but perhaps shes done being a virgin?

besides, who's to say that just because you have sex with her, that you really have any sort of obligation to date her longer than you want to? right now you really like her, so if she wants to have sex with you, i say go for it, if the relationship ends, it ends, but if you care about her enough to have a moral dilemma about whether or not to sleep with her (i mean, jesus christ, you must really like her), it seems the relationship has the potential to be solid enough that she probably wont regret losing her virginity to you, even if the relationship doesnt end in marriage.

Well my friend is like his gf... goes all the way except the very last step, and she's quite adament about not going the last step too.

[Jeenyuss]

Teehee, did you say "deflower"?

[Evasive]

Did you just say "teehee"?

[Jeenyuss]

Well, now you did too.