This isn't going to be worded as well as some of my other topics, I'm not exactly sure how to get this topic across, to get these questions across, to achieve the answers I'm looking for. Scroll to the bottom for the questions that I want you to answer, they are in bold.
I'm 20 years old. As far back as I can remember, I've been taking care of people, leading them, keeping them happy, doing things for my peers. When I was little I usually thought of the random games to play outside, got everyone together to build the snow forts and have the epic snowball fights or neighborhood wide hide-and-seek matches. When I hit highschool with my stable group of friends, they eventually started looking to me to decide where to go for the weekend, what to do when we were bored, I usually listened to them when they needed someone to talk to, when they needed an ear. According to my best friend's little sister (who I've known for like 6 years, she's grown up always seeing me around), I'm the guy that people can't be sad around, I'm the one that cheers everyone up, I'm Steven, I'm the guy that makes everything better.
Here's my problem. Most of my friends are in college, are in relationships, and for the most part don't need to rely on me as much as they used to. One is on a continuing downard spiral of drugs and self-denial/destruction, the path that already claimed another one of our old close friends. I can't help him though, none of the people in our circle have been able to leave a lasting impression on him with our words of advice, even his father can't get through to him. I want to connect with people, I want to show them the heights that they can reach, inspire them to go after their full potential, give them motivation- but how can I do that when one of my good friends is constantly getting worse off?
I've heard the age old advice that some people can't be helped until they want to get better, that I can't help everyone, etc etc. It's even been brought to my attention that I should start trying to help myself in order to truly help others (I have my problems like everyone, apparentally I've helped other people so I wouldn't have to focus on my own stuff).
It's just that I've been in the leader/protector/caretaker position for so long, I've had the role thrust upon me even though it seems like the role I've been meant to take (or is that a result of me constantly having to do it? I don't know) - I don't really know what to do to feel alive. Like you've probably read in my motivation topic, I've lost steam again, I'm in a slump again. It's not just with school, now that I have time to look inward and ask myself what I want, I don't know what I want. I don't know what I want to be, what I want to become. I only know that I want to help people and work with their emotions through my animations, but beyond that, I have nothing, nadda. I don't know. So my questions to you are:
What do you want to do with your life?
What do you think you are? A leader, a brainiac, a rebel, a smart-ass, a thinker, a fighter, what? (you don't have to stick to one classification, I know it would be impossible to be 100% anything)
What makes you feel alive?
What do you cherish?
Why do you get out of bed every morning?
What do you think you're going to do with your life?
What are your goals?
What do you think makes you, you?
What do you think I could do to understand what I want?
What are your fears?
Maybe this is just a "middle of the road of life" type thing going on, I don't know. Serious responses are appreciated.
I'm 20 years old. As far back as I can remember, I've been taking care of people, leading them, keeping them happy, doing things for my peers. When I was little I usually thought of the random games to play outside, got everyone together to build the snow forts and have the epic snowball fights or neighborhood wide hide-and-seek matches. When I hit highschool with my stable group of friends, they eventually started looking to me to decide where to go for the weekend, what to do when we were bored, I usually listened to them when they needed someone to talk to, when they needed an ear. According to my best friend's little sister (who I've known for like 6 years, she's grown up always seeing me around), I'm the guy that people can't be sad around, I'm the one that cheers everyone up, I'm Steven, I'm the guy that makes everything better.
Here's my problem. Most of my friends are in college, are in relationships, and for the most part don't need to rely on me as much as they used to. One is on a continuing downard spiral of drugs and self-denial/destruction, the path that already claimed another one of our old close friends. I can't help him though, none of the people in our circle have been able to leave a lasting impression on him with our words of advice, even his father can't get through to him. I want to connect with people, I want to show them the heights that they can reach, inspire them to go after their full potential, give them motivation- but how can I do that when one of my good friends is constantly getting worse off?
I've heard the age old advice that some people can't be helped until they want to get better, that I can't help everyone, etc etc. It's even been brought to my attention that I should start trying to help myself in order to truly help others (I have my problems like everyone, apparentally I've helped other people so I wouldn't have to focus on my own stuff).
It's just that I've been in the leader/protector/caretaker position for so long, I've had the role thrust upon me even though it seems like the role I've been meant to take (or is that a result of me constantly having to do it? I don't know) - I don't really know what to do to feel alive. Like you've probably read in my motivation topic, I've lost steam again, I'm in a slump again. It's not just with school, now that I have time to look inward and ask myself what I want, I don't know what I want. I don't know what I want to be, what I want to become. I only know that I want to help people and work with their emotions through my animations, but beyond that, I have nothing, nadda. I don't know. So my questions to you are:
What do you want to do with your life?
What do you think you are? A leader, a brainiac, a rebel, a smart-ass, a thinker, a fighter, what? (you don't have to stick to one classification, I know it would be impossible to be 100% anything)
What makes you feel alive?
What do you cherish?
Why do you get out of bed every morning?
What do you think you're going to do with your life?
What are your goals?
What do you think makes you, you?
What do you think I could do to understand what I want?
What are your fears?
Maybe this is just a "middle of the road of life" type thing going on, I don't know. Serious responses are appreciated.
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