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[Liquid Blue]

I asked this on another forum, and here is a reply I got that I think is worth sharing. I replied to his post, and I thought I might as well put it here too.



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Undies, you rock man. I didn't even realize half the shit in your post until I read it, strong stuff man. I'll answer the ones I think I can answer, some though I still don't know the answers to.

Flat out the response I have to your questions is... nothing. I am not going to answer any of your questions at this point for one simple reason... that is a way to distract you from answering them. Those questions are the ones you really want to answer, and if I answer them it will not help you answer them... at least not at this point in our discussion. I can tell you why you want someone else to answer them, and that is precisely why I will not answer them. You are looking to see what someone's response is to these questions that have been burning you up in hope that you find a way to answer them yourself, but by doing that you will only be mimicking what someone else puts down. It is another way to avoid what you most seek to understand right now... yourself.

It is comfortable for you to be the caretaker, and that is a familiar role for you, but what about when you are the one who needs to be taken care of? Have you ever heard the story of the good Samaritan? (I will assume that you have) Well, everyone wants to be the Samaritan in the story, but no one ever wants to be the guy in the ditch. Right now, you are the guy in the ditch, and no effort to change your role to the Samaritan is going to change that.

Therefore, I have some questions to ask you.

What do you want to do with your life?

I want to animate, recreate life and be a story teller. I want to recreate strong emotions and scenes that I've either witnessed or experienced before, and I want to expand the outlook on a variety of things, I want people to either be awed or left thinking after watching my stuff, or both if I'm lucky.

What do you think you are? A leader, a brainiac, a rebel, a smart-ass, a thinker, a fighter, what? (you don't have to stick to one classification, I know it would be impossible to be 100% anything)

Well like I siad before, I'm partly a leader, but I'm also partly a recovering introvert, a thinker (too much thinking sometimes obviously) , a caretaker, a connector.

What makes you feel alive?

I don't know, listening to music and imaging my animations right now is about it. I guess maybe working with my hands (example, when I'm changing a car's oil at my job and there is no one else around, it's pretty relaxing).

What do you cherish?

Honest, open relationships. Not just with my girlfriend, but my friends and my sister. Connections with people, I guess since I'm not close to any of my family besides my sister.

Why do you get out of bed every morning?

I just think back on the times that I've helped people, or just been the ear that they needed, and the expressions on their faces- genuine gratitude.

What do you think you're going to do with your life?

I have the dream of going to Cali and getting picked up by a big animation studio (disney's new 2d department, cross fingers), but I honestly don't know how it's all going to end up. I was supposed to be saving money to move over there for when I graduated from college and got a job, but so far I haven't saved up a single dime- there's always a ticket to pay or gas to buy or something. Always one thing after another, it also kind of worries me how I can't seem to do things in moderation, like when I animate I hardcore it for like a week and get next to no sleep, or I don't animate at all for like 2 weeks at a time.

What are your goals?

To move people with my imagination. To make them think, to make them cry, to make them feel alive.

What do you think makes you, you?

My imagination, my humor, my quick wit. My drawing style.

What are your fears?

I'm not as afraid of dying alone as I thought I would be, but I've been "alone" for a good part of my life so I guess I'm just used to it. My biggest fear would have to be turning out like my mother and wasting my life away after a certain point. She does nothing but bitch and complain and live in a state of denial, compensating for the lack of love in her life by imagining that she's constantly being hounded by people that don't give two shits about her and have moved on with their lives. I would hate to end up not doing anything with my life- each moment, each breath, each tear, each smile is a gift, and I don't want them to go to waste. I say this yet I go through too many days passing off homework, sleeping too much and not doing what I supposedly love, animating.

It's starting to worry me, animating. I love seeing my creations move and yet I have such a hard time sitting down and actually just animating. Why can't I just plug a usb cord into my brain and automatically bring the stuff in my head to everyone else? It'd be so much easier...but anything worth having is worth working for, I know this, I know all this advice that I've given people time and time again, yet I can't seem to follow it myself. I'd say that I love the result and not the process, but I love tweaking my animations and actually seeing my imagination hit the paper- the process is something else I love about it, so why is it so hard to sit down and start? Why do I have these awesome ideas running around in my head, how am I able to bring drawings to life yet I can't seem to communicate or connect as well with the people at my school and job? Sheesh, there's another pandora's box- I can't even connect with the people I'm around of most of the time, even though I'm all about helping and connecting with people. Alot of the time I feel like it's winter and I'm outside a house looking in at a family unwrapping their christmas presents and enjoying spending time together, I'm almost always on the outside looking in, when I'm inside it seems like it's only for a second, never for too long to truly enjoy the warmth. More later I guess, I have no clue.

[Evasive]

dude this thread is like fucking homework

[Theif of Time]

What do you want to do with your life?

Live it, happily. As long as I'm happy, and those around me are...

What do you think you are? A leader, a brainiac, a rebel, a smart-ass, a thinker, a fighter, what? (you don't have to stick to one classification, I know it would be impossible to be 100% anything)

Not a leader. Smart-ass, thinker. Bit of a loner, but lately I've been less loner-like, more social.

What makes you feel alive?

Mmm... hanging around with friends, drinking a bit, and music. Biking around town, sometimes even working.

What do you cherish?

My friends and flatmates. My family.

Why do you get out of bed every morning?

Sense of obligation to myself, to go to class and not lose out on the money I'm spending on it.

What do you think I could do to understand what I want?[/quote]
I don't know.

What are your fears?

Being alone and friendless.

skipped a few questions there, because couldn't think of answers.

[Mr. Peanuts]

What do you want to do with your life?

Generally, I don't know, I'd firstly love to be in a band, but I guess its a pipedream. I have a friend who has been offered a place on an unsigned band album for some small Canadian producer, I'm glad hes got the chance to do something amazing after the shit hes been through. Realistically for me though, I'd mostly like to join the Police and make a difference within the community I live, it seems like an exciting, challenging and satisfying career. Recently I have been having second thoughts going to university, I'm not entirely sure that I have made the right choice.


What do you think you are? A leader, a brainiac, a rebel, a smart-ass, a thinker, a fighter, what? (you don't have to stick to one classification, I know it would be impossible to be 100% anything)

I like to think of myself as a protector and peacemaker and a wise man, haha


What makes you feel alive?

Being with my close friends and having a great time together, also making people laugh


What do you cherish?

My music, friends and family


Why do you get out of bed every morning?

Because I hate getting up late.


What do you think you're going to do with your life?

I really don't know. I don't really have a vision of my future as I did when I was younger.


What are your goals?

To live a satisfying life


What do you think makes you, you?

I'm always giving advice to people so I think people recognise me for my openness and my willingness to listen and advise. Oh yeah, also my sense of humour and ability to make people laugh


What do you think I could do to understand what I want?

Explore, try new things, you will soon be able to paint a more detailed picture of yourself.


What are your fears?

Drowning or burning to death.
Hah, I don't know really, ending up in a crap job, becoming miserable, regretting what I've done with my life.

[Suh]

What do you want to do with your life?Working for the community i.e social worker, in the youth justice system or generally working with children in the area. just something which regardless of the pay, makes me fill ive done something to better and help the people around me instead of helping a company get some money. and then have plenty of kids, who will know to not to just accept the injustices and wrongs of this world but to challenge them

What do you think you are? A leader, a brainiac, a rebel, a smart-ass, a thinker, a fighter, what? (you don't have to stick to one classification, I know it would be impossible to be 100% anything) A thinker (i like to understand and express idea on many subjects) and a rebel (i dont like sitting ideally by watching bad things happen in the name of 'good') with leadership qualities

What makes you feel alive? bumping into people

What do you cherish? my bag (ive had it for 6 years, its tattered and worn, but it brings back all my memories)

Why do you get out of bed every morning? to achieve A

What do you think you're going to do with your life? hopefully A

What are your goals? AAAAAAAAA and maybe to change something in this world for the better

What do you think makes you, you? ?? erm the way i was brought up, created who i am now. so i guess my experiences

What do you think I could do to understand what I want? self reflection

What are your fears? ending up a till worker in tescos with 7 disgusting difference-hating kids in a council home.


I like LBs topics

[Colossos]

What do you want to do with your life?

I want to join the Metropolitan Police in London, once I finish uni, and my ultimate goal is to work my way to the top of the force. However, my eyesight is currently too bad to join, so I'm gonna need to save up and get laser surgery. Other than the police, I am also considering joining other government departments, as my main aim is really to make a difference in my country - even if that means going into politics.

What do you think you are? A leader, a brainiac, a rebel, a smart-ass, a thinker, a fighter, what? (you don't have to stick to one classification, I know it would be impossible to be 100% anything)

I am a thinker and a fighter, the two are not mutually exclusive as many would think.

What makes you feel alive?

At the moment I love adrenaline, and partying with my friends.

What do you cherish?

My family, my friends, my pets, and my country. I know these days patriotism is seen as some kind of sad cliché, but I love my country and would do anything for it, just as I would fo anything for family, friends, and pets.

Why do you get out of bed every morning?

I don't. At the moment I'm trying to coast through uni, but it's not really working so I'm probably gonna have to do some work.

What do you think you're going to do with your life?

I'll probably end up working some middle-management job for some company, putting covers on TPS reports or something. This is almost a certainty at least until I can afford laser surgery on my eyes. Unfortunately police and government recruitment processes aren't as simple as applying for a management job.

What are your goals?

I grew up never having much money in my family, and my family still doesn't have money, so the first thing I would do when I am on a decent salary is start giving money to my family to help them out - my mother has given so much of her life for me, and I desperately want to start giving back to her. Other than that, I'd also like to have the usual stuff, and to travel the world.

What do you think makes you, you?

My arrogance and my insolence. I often see myself as being "above" other people. While I know this is wrong, I can't help it, I just feel superior, like there is something special about me, and I guess thats what makes me me.

What do you think I could do to understand what I want?

This is a difficult question. You seem to be stuck in a rut at the moment, so probably the best thing to help you understnad what you want is for something to shake your life up. You can go for a walk in the forest if you want, or climb a mountain, but all that'll happen is you'll think "wow, that was a life-changing experience....now what?" and when you go back down, things will be exactly the same.
I know it sounds horrible, but many people figure out what they want in the wake of tragedies. For example, early last year I had been toying with the idea of joining the police/government, and when London was tragically bombed in July, I knew then and there that I wanted to help put a stop to that.
Also, my grandmother died a couple of months ago. At her funeral, the priest said that she had lived in the same village all her life. She had never seen the big cities, the mountains, the oceans. We have an awesome planet here, and I realised then that I wanted to see and appreciate it all.

What are your fears?

Death doesn't scare me, but being dead does. If I am dead, I can't help anyone. The thing that scares me most, though, is other people dying.

If I can pass one piece of advice on to anyone, it is: get to know everything about everyone around you, or you will regret it when they are gone. I was recently talking to my grandfather about his life with my grandmother (another one, this one died 4 years ago). He said that when he was in the RAF, they were stationed in Aden in the Middle East, during the British pull-out in 1967. He said that my grandmother lived outside of the secure British compound, with my mother (as a baby) - the street she lived on was known as the "murder mile". Also, as the British finally left Aden, the bus my grandmother was on was attacked by terrorists with grenade launchers (I suppose this also affects my feelings about terrorism). But the details of this story are irrelevant. What it showed me was that my grandmother was an incredibly brave, strong and loving woman, who had lived a life all of her own, outside the fortnightly visits that we made to go and see her. One of my biggest regrets is that I never took the time to find out all this stuff while she was still alive, and now I'll never get to ask her what her life was like. So my main advice to anyone is: take the ime.
Sorry for that derailment.

[Fit of Rage]

What do you want to do with your life?
Create a satisfactory and happy lifestyle for myself and my loved ones, while working to produce something of value to society in the form of advanced transportation (space planes? hey, cool).

What do you think you are? A leader, a brainiac, a rebel, a smart-ass, a thinker, a fighter, what? (you don't have to stick to one classification, I know it would be impossible to be 100% anything)
A bit of a thinker, smart-ass, jack-ass, and ok-guy. I know I can be a jerk sometimes and I accept that. I suppose every day is a bit of a struggle to be a little less jerk-like and a little more considerate of everybody around me.

What makes you feel alive?
Playing guitar and going running on the beach.

What do you cherish?
My family, my friends, my girlfriend and all the opportunities I've had in life until now, especially the chance to attend college.

Why do you get out of bed every morning?
Knowing that I've got work to do and nobody else will take care of it for me.

What do you think you're going to do with your life?
Probably design airplanes or spaceplanes, here's hoping.

What are your goals?
In 5 years, to be graduated from college, settled in, maybe not married but in a position that allows me to achieve a successful career and maybe a few years after that, a family.

What do you think makes you, you?
Actions speak a lot louder than words. Little acts of kindness are hardly any burden but can make someone else's day that much brighter. Even if I'm having a bad day I try to cheer people up. Probably not unique in that respect but it's what I try for.

What do you think I could do to understand what I want?
Go for a walk in the middle of the night. I do a lot of my thinking best around 2 a.m. Fresh air helps too. Once you're there, I suppose the best thing would be to sort out your basic priorities: what is most important at this point in time? Safety? Welfare of friends/family? Academic achievement? Fiscal well-being? Sort that out, and then decide how to get what you need in the order that you need it.

What are your fears?
Extrapersonal forces affecting my life i.e. disease, death of a loved one, money problems affecting my education, etc.

[geekbot]

What do you think I could do to understand what I want?

I'm guessing this is the most important question. First, life is not always living out your dream, fulfilling expectations, and striving towards the goal. Sometimes....a lot of the time...it's grinding it out, doing the right thing, doing what you don't want to do. If you have a family, you take care of the kids when they're crapping all over the place, you keep your godawful job because you have bills to pay.

So sometimes, you just take what you have for now, while you do your soul-searching, because that's what you have for now. So if you're in class, finish them, graduate and see what comes your way after.

If you really like leading/helping people, there are jobs/careers where you can do that- teacher, counsellor, lawyer. It's not limited to that- leading/helping are qualities that would benefit many jobs- being an engineering manager, leading a design team, etc.

If you like connecting with people, think about a job with more interpersonal interactions- marketing/sales, etc. Stay away from things like programming where you have some interaction with your team but it's mostly you and the cube.

If you can figure out a career that can be something you can love doing, that'd be awesome. Not all careers turn out like that. Learn to develop your work ethic. You're not going to turn into one of those people that buries his head in a pile of work from 9-9pm. But maybe you'll be one of those people who's a good teamplayer and helps create a strong team. Or who's a good teacher/presenter/salesman who has good relationships to his students/clients.

If the original question wasn't about career/life paths and was just about "feeling alive", then- get a hobby, join a social club, go to church, quit crying.

[Liquid Blue]

If the original question wasn't about career/life paths and was just about "feeling alive", then- get a hobby, join a social club, go to church, quit crying.

It was about both, cheers though- good replies all around.

[Krusnik]

What do you want to do with your life?
Perhaps become a computer programmer, or get an MBA and run a bussiness, and have a healthy lifestyle.

What do you think you are? A leader, a brainiac, a rebel, a smart-ass, a thinker, a fighter, what? (you don't have to stick to one classification, I know it would be impossible to be 100% anything)
A thinker, and a smart-ass.

What makes you feel alive?
Watching those that I care for enjoy themselves, games, hanging out with friends and family.

What do you cherish?
Family, friends, and life in general.

Why do you get out of bed every morning?
To go to school, and to get a headstart on everything that I have to do in the day.

What do you think you're going to do with your life?
As I said before perhaps become a Computer Programmer, or get an MBA. (I am still thinking about other options).


What are your goals?
To stop procrastinating, and start doing better on my weeker subjects.

What do you think makes you, you?
Well, my experiences I guess.

What do you think I could do to understand what I want?
Do some research on how you can help your friends, and family without hurting them.

What are your fears?
That I'll fail school, and end up screwing up my future.

[Bioture]

What do you want to do with your life? Live, love, learn... and serve.

What do you think you are? A smart ass.

What makes you feel alive? When I look back and say, "hey I could've died."

What do you cherish? It's not "what" but "who."

Why do you get out of bed every morning? God tells me I got shit to do.

What do you think you're going to do with your life? Letsee... teach kids, have a family, glorify God... doesn't matter what I think, its all about where I end up.

What are your goals? To go where I'm needed.

What do you think makes you, you? I'm a maverick that any conformist can love.

What do you think I could do to understand what I want? Ask the G-man. He got all the answers.

What are your fears? Isolation from people and God, hopelessness, talking to people who criticize my beliefs (it's true.)

[stark]

What do you want to do with your life? Sound a bit cliche, "live it." I'm in college now, so I live the college life. Drinking, sleeping, classes, homework. It's the first time to live away from home, really, and make your own decisions. I have a job on campus for two reasons: Mr. Marlboro and Mr. Boston. About a month ago my cardiologist told me "You have an 80 year old heart and you're 19 years old." I should stop, especially smoking, but I don't. Not because I can't, not because I have no self-control, I just feel like doing it, and it does help with stress. I've cut back on drinking, significantly (around three days a week now) and skoke probably around half a pack a day. I still make it to class and I still do my work, though. My accumulative GPA is 3.2, which is good for me (considering high school) and I'm the first of three in my family to not drop out/fail out my first semester (I'm almost done with two years now). I'm a Criminal Justice major, and hope to be a New York State Trooper after graduating, although I have been thinking about joining the Air Force between that. I want to have a wife, and kids. Probably two kids, a boy and a girl would be nice.

What do you think you are? A leader, a brainiac, a rebel, a smart-ass, a thinker, a fighter, what? (you don't have to stick to one classification, I know it would be impossible to be 100% anything) I'm fucked up. Not in a mental sense, just all around fucked up. A smart-ass would be an understatement to anyone who really knows me. I suppose I'm serious when I need to be, but I'm so sarcastic all the time and talk so much trash (jokingly). I do stupid things for the hell of it, and have fun doing so. For example, look at my sweet halloween costume:


What makes you feel alive? What doesn't? I am alive, aren't I? Having fun, hanging out, just doing shit in general is life, at least right now. College life is different then post-graduation life, and they're different then high school life. But, regardless, it's still all life, just different stages, where different things don't neccisarily mean you don't feel a live or you're not alive, simply that's life at that current moment.

What do you cherish? My family... We're not perfect, by any means but they're the only family I have. Friends... If you don't have friends, you're not gonna last long. They've got your back, they're there for you. I love my car, and my guitars, but I don't really "cherish" them. Yeah, there's sentimental value which can't be bought, but you can still buy the same thing. Cherish something that can be lost forever.

Why do you get out of bed every morning? Because that's where I fell asleep.

What do you think you're going to do with your life? This question is pretty similar to the other one. My wants aren't far fetched and is completely accompishable, so I'd say what I said up there is what I think I'm going do with my life.

What are your goals? They're pretty much stated up there, too. The first would be to graduate. Just over two years left until that, then either the Air Force or becoming a Trooper. Find a good, faithful wife. Have kids. Retire around 55, even though I'd be eligable at 44. Live long, have fun.

What do you think makes you, you? Everything and anything. No two people are exactly alike and it's the differences in each and every person that makes them who they are. Their beliefs, their compassion, their feelings, how they express themeselfs, how they act, what they say, how they move, what they do, when they do it. I'm the only son-of-a-bitch here at college that'll wear shorts and a t-shirt when it's snowing outside. It's comfortable, and it's not like I'm about to go on a hike or something, I'm walking a building or two away. Most people say I'm "crazy." Not crazy in a sense that I'm gonna kill someone or myself, just crazy.

What do you think I could do to understand what I want? You gotta do what you gotta do. Things'll fall in to place, even if you don't know what you want right now. Don't pressure yourself into thinking "What am I gonna do with my life?" or "Will I ever amount to anything?" or "Would I ever make a difference?" Don't worry about what will happen, just sit back and enjoy the ride, 'cause you never know where you're gonna stop.

What are your fears? Dying. Have you ever really thought, just stopped and thought "what is gonna happen to me when I die?" Religious or not, just think about it. It's so hard to even fathom. However, I'm not worried that I'm going to die. It's just frightening to think about. Getting divorced. I suppose it wouldn't be so bad if we didn't have any kids, but to put my kids through such a thing would tear me apart. I guess that sort of makes me afraid of marriage, too. Finally, herpes. I suppose all STD's, but the herps can still be contracted even with a condom on. And herpes cannot be cured, only surpressed. As one of my professors once told us "Love may come and go, but herpes last a lifetime." I suppose it doesn't help that there's a few people around these parts that have it, and it doesn't take long for one person to have sex with another and that person has sex with someone else. And it can be contracted through oral sex (only the person who is giving oral can get it, though).

[Liquid Blue]

Sarien: a king sends one guy in his court out on a mission go find him a magic ring
Sarien: and he says that this ring has powers that can make happy men turn sad.. and sad men turn happy
Sarien: so the guy goes all over, looking for this ring, asking everywhere, if people had ever heard of such a ring
Sarien: and he can't find it, so as time drags on he becomes more and more miserable
Sarien: until at last he asks an old jeweler in a village if he knew of such a ring... the old man takes a ring and engraves something on it.. and hands it over..
Sarien: he reads it and breaks out into a smile
Sarien: he takes it back to the king.. and the king is all happy, and asks for the ring he asked for.. he reads it.. and suddenly begins to frown
Sarien: engraved on the ring were the words "This too shall pass."
Sarien: for the sad.. the burdens will eventually pass
Sarien: for the happy.. it doesn't last forever
LiquidBlue Gecko: holy crap
LiquidBlue Gecko: that's awesome
Sarien: all things are transitory... This too shall pass.
Sarien: hehe
LiquidBlue Gecko: thanks for telling me the story man
LiquidBlue Gecko: i feel like i need to post it somewhere now
Sarien: no problem.. hope it does you good some day
Sarien: haha
LiquidBlue Gecko: it already has
Sarien: It's just a simple truth about life, is all

[Existenz87]

I'm 19 years old and I understand how you feel. Good topic

What makes you feel alive?
Driving in my truck with my music heading down a road somewhere, being with my family when everyone is happy.
What do you cherish?
My sister Ann.
Why do you get out of bed every morning?
Because I'm on Prozac and I stopped feeling like commiting suicide. So now theres nothing better to do.
What do you think you're going to do with your life?
I don't know or care.
What are your goals?
Probably to get self esteem, confidence, complete treatment for my depression and bi-polarity, and be more social.
What do you think makes you, you?
I am analytical and I respect maybe one or two people. I am very confused with who I am. I get depressed a lot.
What do you think I could do to understand what I want?
Complete treatment for depression and bi-polarity.
What are your fears?
That I could get to the point where I have no fear again.

[ZeUs!!]

What do you want to do with your life?
Most people seem to have answered this in the vein of what they would do in an ideal world, and what they'll end up doing. I'll probably end up working in an office in London, in some middle management role. I want to head up a small team at least. In an ideal world: racing car driver. I don't have my license yet. Thats not an issue.

What do you think you are? A leader, a brainiac, a rebel, a smart-ass, a thinker, a fighter, what? (you don't have to stick to one classification, I know it would be impossible to be 100% anything)
I'm a thinker and I'm always one step ahead, which is half my downfall. My other problem is I'm shit at explaining what I'm thinking, or putting into words whats going through my head. I can do it in front of a computer no problem as I have as long as I like to respond, and I can formulate the best sentence. In a conversation I can't think fast enough to respond. My best friend at uni is a top guy, he's amazing and we get along like a house on fire, however he's got this one annoying, niggly tick. He's got some kind of complex where he has to be seen as subtly better than everyone. Its not as bad as it sounds, he isn't some kind of bully, its just he has to win every argument and if someone gets something wrong he has to point it out. He doesn't realise he's doing it, so when I say what I've been thinking and he hasn't been thinking along the same lines and doesn't get it, and I can't formulate what I'm saying, he makes sure everyone thinks I'm talking garbage. He doesn't sound like a nice bloke, he really is, he just needs to lose his competitive streak.

What makes you feel alive?
Honestly? Nothing. While I have friends who really value me, I have no friends that I value back. This isn't me being egotistical, this is me enjoying my own company more than the company of others, a point which is probably related to what I've said above about communicating. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a loner at all, I'm more sociable than most people my age. I go out a few times a week (my finances are horrific as a result) and I'm always round my mate's houses - and I'm invited, I don't just think of excuses. The one friend that I connect with on every level has just moved. I believe that you can only get a sense of achievement through social situations, not through any personal accomplishments. That and sex.

What do you cherish?
Again, nothing. My family have always been there, they're a fixture thats never going away and you can only cherish something that you would be devastated to lose. To me, losing my family is not an option. I don't cherish any material items. I could throw my laptop out of the window if I really had to, although my evenings would be slightly more boring as a result - telly is shit nowadays. As the best achievements are social accomplishments, there's nothing to cherish.

Why do you get out of bed every morning?
I have this fear of wasting the day. I have to get up 9-10 otherwise I feel like such a worthless shitty person for wasting away.

What do you think you're going to do with your life?
Nothing remarkable, but I intend to be happy with myself and like I keep saying, the only achievements that matter are social so I'll end up settling down and being happy. I'm the kind of person who takes a lot to connect with someone, but as a result I've usually taken my time to decide they're worth connecting with.

What are your goals?
Being happy with oneself, and the satisfaction this brings.

What do you think makes you, you?
The desire to make other people feel better instead of myself. I'm not saying this to be the forum hero, but I'd much much rather make someone else happy than make myself happy - as long as its someone I care about. I always go a long way out of my way to make my friends happy, which often gets me in trouble as female friends can easily get the wrong message. I'm not hitting on anyone, its just me.

What do you think I could do to understand what I want?
Fill out a forum questionnaire

What are your fears?
Lonliness

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What are your flaws?
This is related to the answer I gave in 'what I want to do with my life'. I said I'll settle down as I'm the kind of person who'll form one, strong, long-lasting connection. The flipside to this is I'm amazingly grumpy, uptight, irritant to people I don't like, which is most people. This isn't people I meet in the street, I have to decide they're not worth knowing. For example: my flatmates laugh at the most unfunny slapstick stuff on tv which I've seen coming 5 minutes ago, and that annoys the hell out of me. They're always doing stuff because its 'extreme' and 'crazy', and while that makes them outgoing and fun people to be around to most people, it really fucking irritates me, and I see them as shallow and fake. The problem is they're often sociable to me. I've given up trying to get along these people, and while they're affable to me I just grunt and give them monosyllabic answers. I'm a complete shit for it and I can't have a good reputation, but I know I need to change.