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    Alright, I know this isn't the best place to get guidance, but i'm sort of stuck right now.

    Last night, my younger sister had 2 of her friends over and they stayed up really late like they always do. I was heading for bed about 2am when she came into the kitchen to get something and while she was going back to her room (they had locked the door to it, I found out) something didn't look right. So I followed her back and saw she had trouble staying on her feet, almost tripping a couple of times. I went to my room for a minute and then knocked on the door, and asked her if she was drunk. Turns out they had been for a while that night and she asked me to swear not to tell anyone.

    If she was a little older I wouldn't be as concerned, but she just turned 16 in December of last year and i'm worried she's going to hurt herself, and I don't know how long she's been doing this or what else she may have gotten into.

    Should I tell my parents?
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    Sit down and talk with (and not to) her... sis-bro style.

    Get down to the facts by making her feel comfortable and able to trust you (not that she doesn't already, but yeah).

    Personally speaking, I do find that to be a bit young to be or seem/look drunk (don't forget people are different when surrounded by friends).

    But basically, what I wanna say is that hypotheses and suspicion will lead you nowhere.

    Sit.Down.And.Talk.To.Each.Other.
    Seems like we don't do that enough nowadays, even with our own family members.

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    • #3
      Raise your hand if you got drunk at the age of 16 (or earlier).

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      • #4
        Beat her till she stops.

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        • #5
          Well In these days. 16 isnt too young to start drinking. I agree its not the best. But society knows it happening and it really doesnt care. Frankly by the age of 13 if you havent already started to drink. your behind the times. AGAIN I STATE I DO NOT AGREE WITH THIS! But facts ar facts. You do what you feel is necessary to protect your little sister. But Shes going to do it whether you tell you parents or not. So Just sit down talk to her. and hope for the best.

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          • #6
            16 is quite a normal age to start trying alcohol for the first time in Finland.
            We can buy beer when we're 18. Best way is to not make such a big deal about
            it and tell her to not keep it a secret. Forbidden fruits and mystifying things
            make it only worse, and she might not learn how to control her drinking in the
            future. Drinking alcohol is ok, as long as you know your own limits, and they are
            not the same as your friends'. It's very important that your parents aren't left
            out of their daughter's first experiences on alcohol, so that they can tell their
            educated and wiser opinions on it, than her classmates/neighbours. Just talk
            about it with no taboos.
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            • #7
              Seeing as how she turned 16, mention driving as well.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Chao. View Post
                Alright, I know this isn't the best place to get guidance, but i'm sort of stuck right now.

                Last night, my younger sister had 2 of her friends over and they stayed up really late like they always do. I was heading for bed about 2am when she came into the kitchen to get something and while she was going back to her room (they had locked the door to it, I found out) something didn't look right. So I followed her back and saw she had trouble staying on her feet, almost tripping a couple of times. I went to my room for a minute and then knocked on the door, and asked her if she was drunk. Turns out they had been for a while that night and she asked me to swear not to tell anyone.

                If she was a little older I wouldn't be as concerned, but she just turned 16 in December of last year and i'm worried she's going to hurt herself, and I don't know how long she's been doing this or what else she may have gotten into.

                Should I tell my parents?
                Yes you should tell your parents, as it is their absolute right to know. If my child was drunk, and their brother saw it, I would want them to tell me. You can fix a problem you don't know about, thus you must tell the parents, otherwise the ruining of her life as a alcoholic begins, or rather continues off getting worse and worse.
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                • #9
                  that's not too young, chao. don't be a snitch and tell your parents, that's for damn sure. talk with her about it, try that.

                  IF THAT DOESNT WORK THERE'S ALWAYS ORAL SEX!!!!!!!

                  EDIT: disregard what the faggot above me told you. don't be a snitch. it'll bite you back in your ass when you do something.
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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Jeenyuss View Post
                    that's not too young, chao. don't be a snitch and tell your parents, that's for damn sure. talk with her about it, try that.

                    IF THAT DOESNT WORK THERE'S ALWAYS ORAL SEX!!!!!!!

                    EDIT: disregard what the faggot above me told you. don't be a snitch. it'll bite you back in your ass when you do something.
                    It won't come back to haunt you if you don't do something bad. It keeps you accountable to your parents that you would honor them. Don't think about the situation in which, what can I get out of this, or what can I do to better my situation, or even how is this going to hurt me if I tell your parents. Look at it as if you were the parents, would you want to be unknown to your children running around commiting vile sins and hurting themselves and their future? Or would you rather be confronted with the situation that you may be able to properly handle the matter. I think its a good idea to talk with your sister about it, but you also need to talk to your parents about it as well, that they may properly be able to handle the matter. Now if your parents are going to be abusive in the situation (firm, strict, and even great in non-physical punishment such as grounding is alright, but abusive is totally different) then you shouldn't present it to your parents, unless she refuses to make some sort of change after many attempts with talking and working with her.
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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Blueblaze View Post
                      Yes you should tell your parents, as it is their absolute right to know. If my child was drunk, and their brother saw it, I would want them to tell me. You can fix a problem you don't know about, thus you must tell the parents, otherwise the ruining of her life as a alcoholic begins, or rather continues off getting worse and worse.
                      yea thats a what a little cristian snitching bitch would do, better off talking to her about it than having her hate you cuz you're a little mommys boy amirite


                      YEa tell her how fucking fun it is drunk driving omg its like flying a fucking spaceship....awesome, just hope u dont crash and hurt or kill someone or yourself anyways let her know how fun it is to set the cruise at 80mph turn the headlights off and let go of the wheel for 10 seconds!! awesome, i recommend it to all

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                      • #12
                        About being a snitch: I would just feel really bad if she got into a driving accident or fucked her liver up. She's only just turned 16.
                        help: (qg) (javs): i think my isp is stealing internet from me.

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by Chao. View Post
                          About being a snitch: I would just feel really bad if she got into a driving accident or fucked her liver up. She's only just turned 16.
                          true, anyways talk to her first about it and then if that does nothing then i guess u have no choice but try making going to your parents one of the last things youo do

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Blueblaze View Post
                            It won't come back to haunt you if you don't do something bad. It keeps you accountable to your parents that you would honor them. Don't think about the situation in which, what can I get out of this, or what can I do to better my situation, or even how is this going to hurt me if I tell your parents. Look at it as if you were the parents, would you want to be unknown to your children running around commiting vile sins and hurting themselves and their future? Or would you rather be confronted with the situation that you may be able to properly handle the matter. I think its a good idea to talk with your sister about it, but you also need to talk to your parents about it as well, that they may properly be able to handle the matter. Now if your parents are going to be abusive in the situation (firm, strict, and even great in non-physical punishment such as grounding is alright, but abusive is totally different) then you shouldn't present it to your parents, unless she refuses to make some sort of change after many attempts with talking and working with her.
                            this guy reminds me of a 1990's after school special.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Blueblaze View Post
                              Yes you should tell your parents, as it is their absolute right to know. If my child was drunk, and their brother saw it, I would want them to tell me. You can fix a problem you don't know about, thus you must tell the parents, otherwise the ruining of her life as a alcoholic begins, or rather continues off getting worse and worse.
                              unless shes drinking more than 1-2 times a week i would let her, especially if they were at home u could at least make sure she doesnt leave..u can always tell her ur cool with it as long as shes at home and doesnt leave and has her friends come over, if not u will tell ur mom but that can backfire and lead to her sneaking out and shit i dunno lxolz

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