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[Stayon]

made me laugh with the sex change part ( =

[Eric is God]

Never base important life decisions (like where to attend college, where to live) on a relationship unless you are engaged or married. Also, long distance relationships don't work... EVER! I have no idea if this is the choice you face but you are better off ending a relationship early and crying like a little girl for a week than trying to extend the life of dying relationship. You are a lot like I used to be and trust me when I say you need to change quickly.

[H.M.S. Stargazer]

Spider, my suggestion is ?go overdrive ?buy beer ?find hottie then ?chat !START CAR !TELL BANGBANGBANG

[Spider]

You can't buy love (I put so much money in this relationship) and don't get obsessed(I email her sometimes, once every few days, and she never replies). You're spinning.

If you are questioning her dedication you have to talk to her about it. Don't start making up theories and don't post it on forums. You might tell her what you expect in this long distance relationship and maybe don't be too demanding.

I think exagerated how often I communicate if this many of you think I'm "obsessed". I emailed once a week maybe, and she told me she wanted me to do that. Plus, we've been in a relationship for two years and lived together prior to this. It's not like we just started dating right. I mean if your gf of 2 years called to say "Hey honey how was your day?" You wouldn't like "Jesus woman, get off my case! Fucking stalker." right?

THe problem here is everything was awesome for two years, and she moved away and seems to be slowly forgetting that and drifting away. It's a crappy situation, as a result I'm upset about it. Instead of being "stalkerish" or just prematurely dumping her, or being an ass to her on the phone, I decided to bitch to you guys. And hopefully I'll get a wicked an idea of what to do from someone. So far most of the ideas here are decent and I'll have to consider them.

Troll King: I can totally relate to what you say I'm just too much a wuss to call it off. It'll be a learning experience if/when she finally does. I agree about long distance relationships never working. I've always said that myself. This circumstance arose, and I'm in it fully expecting it to fail. Har har. How has life worked out for you? Please tell me you're dating an attractive woman or two.

Shout out to Epi, thanks for the post. It's helpful! I actually do believe there is a good chance she is just really busy and frustrated to be honest. Which makes this all so difficult. If I miscalculate things I could end up losing someone very important when I don't have to. I doubt she would be cheating on me, in fact I'd guarantee she isn't. My fear is we're just drifting too far apart. Honestly, probably only time will tell. Communication with us was always very even but she usually initiated most of the things we went out and did. Except going for coffee because I liked that more than her. o.O

The Sox are beating the Rockies again, and the internet sucks so I'm going to watch Transformers. Rock on everyone.

[MetalHeadz]

Who compensates me for all the damn money I spent in the past 2 years?

Your opinion of women is pretty shallow man. Perhaps if it was real love rather than you buying her out it might have lasted.

Don't take it too hard anyway man, long distance shit never works out. 1 year of celibacy? Jesus.

[Hero*]

ive got a long distance relationship too but its only from university to college so it isnt that bad. you have like 2 provinces in between you two. Man that must be tough. Honestly if you really love the girl, keep on trying. Try to get a hold of her on the phone and talk it out with her. Tell her how you feel and if she doesn't feel the same way then you have to come to the realization that it is over. But if she still feels the same way, and she wants to work it out stick to it. Sometimes all people need is to be away from someone in order to realize how much they actually meant to them. Hope things work out for ya spider

[Hero*]

Your opinion of women is pretty shallow man. Perhaps if it was real love rather than you buying her out it might have lasted.

Don't take it too hard anyway man, long distance shit never works out. 1 year of celibacy? Jesus.

I agree, one year without getting it; thats whack. but if its honestly with the perfect girl, would you really let that opportunity slip? You don't have to buy their love, but fuck if you get them flowers or even a rose for no reason, you're getting laid that second and an hour later. girls love getting anything sweet for no special occasion.

Edit. sorry for double post

[Epinephrine]

Shout out to Epi, thanks for the post. It's helpful! I actually do believe there is a good chance she is just really busy and frustrated to be honest. Which makes this all so difficult. If I miscalculate things I could end up losing someone very important when I don't have to. I doubt she would be cheating on me, in fact I'd guarantee she isn't. My fear is we're just drifting too far apart. Honestly, probably only time will tell. Communication with us was always very even but she usually initiated most of the things we went out and did. Except going for coffee because I liked that more than her. o.O

The Sox are beating the Rockies again, and the internet sucks so I'm going to watch Transformers. Rock on everyone.

If you truly believe she's faithful and you don't want to end it... remember not all long-distance relationships go sour. I was in one and now it's no longer long distance but still going well!

And I have a friend who actually got MARRIED from a long distance relationship of 4 years (texas and toronto). They only saw eachother about 3-4x a year before he moved up here. And she is quite hot and guys approached her everywhere, non-stop.

I highly recommend webcam. Even if you aren't actively talking, as long as you're in front of the computer, you can at least communicate somewhat even if it's just watching eachother study.

[Spider]

I agree, one year without getting it; thats whack. but if its honestly with the perfect girl, would you really let that opportunity slip? You don't have to buy their love, but fuck if you get them flowers or even a rose for no reason, you're getting laid that second and an hour later. girls love getting anything sweet for no special occasion.

Edit. sorry for double post

I didn't mean to sound shallow. It's not even about the money. Like Hero is saying here, there are all kinds of little things you need to do to be a good boyfriend and girls love that stuff, at least most do, mine did. If you spend 2 years really working at it, emotionally, commiting your time, ditching work and getting in trouble because she needed a ride somewhere, buying her a cool mp3 player when her sister broke hers and felt guilty about it so they would both be happy and not having the money to buy yourself a cool one until you recently bought yourself an iPod Touch which is actually really neat...

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Anyway, the point is, 2 years of a serious relationship, alot goes into that, and when it goes south when you don't want it to... it's basically an investment, a really big investment in terms of, like I said, time, money, emotions, etc. And its a big fucking lost investment and that is some lame shit, to me, right now.

I mean, we all know how this works, right? If we break up she will have gone from loving me and all that, to, if she does come back to Saskatoon she will visit friends who cared way less about her than I did just to chill and not even drop me a line. That's how it goes, usually, right? So, no, I don't feel very good or smart about putting that time and money into, if that ends up being the case. I'm not the kind of person who thinks "great, we had some good times" It's a waste of two years. Thats how I think. Which I feely admit probably isnt good or right. I'm a bit jaded and cynical. But thats cool, even for jaded dudes life goes on.

On the plus side, I do think it has a chance of working out. She just called me last night, of course she was busy so we only talked for about 30 min, but we had a good chat. Not about this stuff because I can't just waste what little time she has bothering her with this. We just had a nice chat.

Thanks for everyones concern.

[Galleleo]

When did Troll King post?

[Spider]

lol, don't know. Not sure who-the-heck I meant to say. I was replying to someone. I don't know why I said Troll King, it's not like a have an infatuation with him or anything heh heh heh ...