I have a problem with a friend

[Bioture]

I really want to ask her out. But if I do I'm afraid it'll end the friendship or make it really wierd.

Suggestions please.

[Dameon Angell]

oh God. I hate these things. You kinda fall for a girl, but at first its just a friendship thing. But now you've entered the great beyond. You wanna be closer to her, in that whole boyfriend/girlfriend sense, but you don't wanna just destroy all you have together.

Well, noone can make the decision for you, but, I can help. You gotta ask yourself two questions....

1. Could you live with yourself to hide these feelings of wanting to take it a step further and just staying friends without knowing if it would work out or not?

2. Could you muster up the strength to just bite the bullet and ask?

I had the same situation, and I chose to take part 2. She didn't wanna be with me like that, but we still have a strong relationship together, just not in that way. But, I don't know if the outcome could be the same for you.

That's all the help I can give you, the rest is up to you.

[Sleepy Weasel]

I'm sure everyone here is going to say "go for it" as that's the common advice. But not to totally destroy your confidence and any optimism you might have about the situation One of my friends sophmore year always had this one girl hanging out with us for about a year. He asked her out at the end of the year... never seen her since.

So that said I would say it depends on
A. How long you've known her
B. What you think your chances are
C. Assume she isn't interested. Will you still be able to be friends? If not, can you live with that?
D. How much do you really want to go out with her?

If a large part of the friendship is based on being attracted to her, you better ask her out or it will just eat you up inside. Normally this situations work out too, and if not just have some way to blow it off like it never happened and it shouldn't do much damage.

[Vandroy]

I think if u ask some1 out as a date u want to change your relationship with her Ask her for coffee and after that move slowly. In my case that caused 3 years relationship which still continoes :eek:

[Villainous]

GG COWARD.

[cundor]

Just take him/her in the ass...painfull but effective...

[Verthanthi]

Buy her a corset.

[arrogance]

Girls are fucking evil. Forget it dude.

(not gay)

[cundor]

Originally posted by arrogance
Girls are fucking evil. Forget it dude.

(not gay)

I obey you to take those evil words back!
I have the sweetest gf ever and I'm a little offended right now!
Die bunnies, die!

[ZeUs!!]

Club her over the head and drag her back to your cave



(c) Tigerex 2003

[Jeansi]

I think it's just sick to actually love a girl and she thinks you are just a friend. It's just discusting. I'd tell her about my feelings and if it does not work out and I'd still love her I could not be her friend. If it worked out well the it's all good. If it doesn't work out and you understand it maybe you can still be friends.

[Fit of Rage]

Originally posted by arrogance
Girls are fucking evil. Forget it dude.

(not gay)

It's true. Annette is the spawn of Satan. (But we love her anyway. Yeah... I said we. You figure it out.)

[za gophar]

be friends with benefits

[MaGi kOz]

What was that one equation that logically stated that girls are equivalant to evil?

girls = times * money

since time IS money:

girls = money * money
girls = money^2

Since we are forced to think that money is the root of all evil:

girls = ( \/EVIL )^2

which then forces us to conclude that:

girls = evil

I think that's how it went.

[DoTheFandango]

Plain and Simple
Don't do it.
It's not worth it if you ever break up or get in a fight.
Be grateful that you are friends and leave it at that.