Girls - rejection

[Theif of Time]

poor jeem.

[Ilya]

team we have birdflu

[1ight]

telling a girl you love her when you're not even going out is pretty much the worst thing you could do. you're gonna scare her shitless

its a pretty horrible idea to tell her you love her even when you are going out too, but you know

Yeah I think I've learnt that, its a real risk. But what would you choose, to actually break down and be eaten inside of the love you have for her. I really needed to say it, my misstake, maybe. Although my friend told me that, it might turnout good though. If she at somepoint in life might accept those feelings and perhaps start having feelings for me. idk...

I'm quite emotional, so even if I never went out with her, its still a very big hit for me. At least, I'm releaved that I told her and now I'll just deal with the pain and carry on.

So funny, yesterday, I somehow was able to be calm, 2nd day, just seeing her amplifies it -> the fact that she actually said no in her own way. Did you know that by crying, releases anti-stress hormones or something.

Bioture: I will not forget that. : >

[Liquid Blue]

Yeah I think I've learnt that, its a real risk. But what would you choose, to actually break down and be eaten inside of the love you have for her. I really needed to say it, my misstake, maybe. Although my friend told me that, it might turnout good though. If she at somepoint in life might accept those feelings and perhaps start having feelings for me. idk...

I'm quite emotional, so even if I never went out with her, its still a very big hit for me. At least, I'm releaved that I told her and now I'll just deal with the pain and carry on.

So funny, yesterday, I somehow was able to be calm, 2nd day, just seeing her amplifies it -> the fact that she actually said no in her own way. Did you know that by crying, releases anti-stress hormones or something.

Bioture: I will not forget that. : >

Is said friend that gave you this advice getting laid, or does he just want the girl for himself? Rejection sucks but it's not going to do you any good to dwell on this. The best way to deal with this is to hit on some other girl, I'd normally say sleep with some other girl but you're religious and I don't think that would float very well :grin:

Seeing her and crying...you need other women to get your mind off he, chief. At least jack off to some porn for pete's sake, don't keep crying about her, no matter how much you think you love her, she's not worth the drama or the time.

[Pressure Drop]

sounds more like infatuation than love
unrequited love isn't proper love at all
real love is a 2 way street.

no point in wallowing in self pity
you tried, you failed, move on
harsh but true

[Doc Flabby]

I always find telling the girl that rejects me that her best friend / sister / mum is so much better in bed normally has the desired effect :fear:

[1ight]

Is said friend that gave you this advice getting laid, or does he just want the girl for himself? Rejection sucks but it's not going to do you any good to dwell on this. The best way to deal with this is to hit on some other girl, I'd normally say sleep with some other girl but you're religious and I don't think that would float very well :grin:

Seeing her and crying...you need other women to get your mind off he, chief. At least jack off to some porn for pete's sake, don't keep crying about her, no matter how much you think you love her, she's not worth the drama or the time.

You are right, it wouldn't really float my boat. I'm trying my best to not dwell on it. I don't know if thinking on some other girl would be the best solution for me, I rather actually twist and turn somewhile so that I learn something from this. Though know it happend yesterday, I still have somewhat hope, that it would turnout good. Since she didn't say at first a no no, only that I shouldn't fall in love with her, but basically maybe its the same thing. But still, I'll just check how the situation goes on, though having my feelings put aside and trying to be her friend, like I should have done in the first place.

Life is a school and the school I'm going to is kinda small, so there isn't really any other girl I would find myself intrested in. But if I continue next year, there will be new students and if its God's will, its either this girl or some new girl or non at all for the time being. :| I surely don't hope on that last option though.

Yeah, rejection surely is harsh. But I'm happy but yet dissepointed.. ; )

And to you all that gave your time to read and answer/giving your opinion on this, thank you it has be appreciated!!

[stark]

Just like PD said, it sounds more like an infatuation than true love. And also with accordance to what he said, love is a two way street, and I've had discussions like this in classes all the time "can you love someone who doesn't love you?" People like you would say yes. Most people would say "No, you cannot." Love is a mutual feeling. It takes two to tango. If she said "You shouldn't fall in love with me," then she doesn't want you to. That may not mean anything against you, 'cause I've met girls like that, who either don't want a relationship period, or are still clinging to their ex. Regardless to the situation, get over it. If there's one thing that's repeated over and over, it's to get over it and to not dwell on it.

Since you believe in God, I'll leave you with a verse from Jeremiah 29:11 which says: "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for wholeness and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope."

[WuTang420]

ok ive been happily married for 3 yrs now, and im my opinion heres where u went wrong:
1) girls LOVE IT when guys are assholes to them. i know, wierd right? true nonetheless. so when they make a dumbass joke instead of laughing anyways, be like "yo that was fuckin lame" speak your mind!

2) never EVER EVER EVER tell a girl you love her untill ur ready to marry her. otherwise ur basiclly saying " hey heres complete power over me, feel free to toy with me as you please" = bad idea as women are evil and will pwn you hardcore.

3) To get her you must first sleep with 1 of her friends, so the friend will tell her "DAMN that mofo has like a 10 inch penis!! and actually knows how to use it!" now if the girl is too respectable this one may be a bad idea, but hey, i slept with ALL of my wifes friends before deciding she was my fav.

4) ignore ignore ignore. the more you make her think your uninterested, the more she'll want you.

5) BE VULGAR!!! grab ass and titties ALL DAY! they may act annoyed but they LOVE the attention!

6) just remember...women are evil. i say again.. WOMEN ARE EVIL! so dont take rejection too hard, silly ass hoes anyways right?

[RATTY...]

telling a girl you love her when you're not even going out is pretty much the worst thing you could do. you're gonna scare her shitless

So true, remember this tip light. Cause that's exactly what happened.

[jeem]

ok ive been happily married for 3 yrs now, and im my opinion heres where u went wrong:
1) girls LOVE IT when guys are assholes to them. i know, wierd right? true nonetheless. so when they make a dumbass joke instead of laughing anyways, be like "yo that was fuckin lame" speak your mind!

2) never EVER EVER EVER tell a girl you love her untill ur ready to marry her. otherwise ur basiclly saying " hey heres complete power over me, feel free to toy with me as you please" = bad idea as women are evil and will pwn you hardcore.

3) To get her you must first sleep with 1 of her friends, so the friend will tell her "DAMN that mofo has like a 10 inch penis!! and actually knows how to use it!" now if the girl is too respectable this one may be a bad idea, but hey, i slept with ALL of my wifes friends before deciding she was my fav.

4) ignore ignore ignore. the more you make her think your uninterested, the more she'll want you.

5) BE VULGAR!!! grab ass and titties ALL DAY! they may act annoyed but they LOVE the attention!

6) just remember...women are evil. i say again.. WOMEN ARE EVIL! so dont take rejection too hard, silly ass hoes anyways right?

this was awesome.

[sup_dudes]

Good to know

[Nickname]

Heros of this thread: ZeUs!!, PaulOakenfold, jeem and Facetious

[ThomasWilliams]

Real game

Ok let me put you on some real game. First of all you never say the L word unless they say it first, and a way to make them say it is make them feel like they can do anything and say anything by you. like one thing is I love to make them horny and from that point they fall on me like snow on a cold winter snowy day,. You do that my friend and I promise you it will work because girls hate a guy they can run over, you have to be the man basically say fuck em, they will understand you better as a man and you will feel better as one. SO let the bitch say "I love you" not the other way around

[Theif of Time]

But if I continue next year, there will be new students and if its God's will, its either this girl or some new girl or non at all for the time being. :| I surely don't hope on that last option though.

This may be a problem. Don't sit around waiting for something to happen: Carpe Diem.